My Obituary: Things I learned & Want people to know Before I die

Every post in this series reflects one central truth: life is finite, and how we choose to spend it—on ourselves, others, and the things that matter—shapes both our healing and our legacy.

From investing early in people and passions, to nourishing our bodies and souls, to showing up fully in relationships with children, elders, or ourselves—each small choice is an opportunity to practice presence, attune to our nervous system, and cultivate relational and self-healing. Trauma may make life feel unpredictable, but it also teaches us that healing is built in the ordinary, repeated, intentional moments: a kind word, a pause before reacting, a breath, a nurturing meal, or a moment of connection.

The thread running through all of these posts is this: what we do today matters—not just for our own healing, but for the legacy we leave behind. Every act of care, every presence we offer, every habit of self-compassion, ripples outward into the lives of others. Our obituaries may be short, but the life we choose to live—and how we choose to engage with fear, trauma, love, and presence—can echo for generations.

Put simply: life isn’t about perfection or grand accomplishments. It’s about showing up fully, intentionally, and with care—so that when our story is eventually told, it reflects healing, love, and meaning.  

Enjoy my obituary: things I learned and want people to know before I die.